From Pilar's Blog: LESSONS FROM GREY'S ANATOMY - The Hard Lessons on Love and Men...
1. A man won't let go if he really loves you. Do not hold on to someone who has let you go of you. He does not love you and does not value having you. Believe me, he will not let go if he really loves you. There is another reason he is not willing to tell. Also, do not believe him when he says it's just the way he really is. He's not the sweet or expressive-type. Remember during your first few weeks together? Where has that sweet guy gone? He simply is not that into you anymore.
2. Do not look for reasons why he ended the relationship. There is only one reason why he ended your relationship. He just does not love you. Do not waste your time thinking of reasons or what you should have done. Move on and be open to a man who will truly love you.
3. Do not get hung up on your past. Do not nag or distrust your current boyfriend just because your ex hurt you. Do not treat him or the relationship the same way. Do not compare. He will not react the same way as your ex. Do not be worried that your simple mistakes will cause him to look for another girl. What happened with your ex was not your fault. It was not because you didn't guard him enough or you didn't make him happy enough. Do not fear men just because your "supposedly" perfect ex-boyfriend mistreated you.
4. Do not look into images. How many times have you met a girl who didn't have the best image in school or at the office, but you get to know the girl and found out she was actually extremely nice? Do not rely on images. Oftentimes, it is far from reality.
5. Always have your own set of rules. Set your limits on how far you'd go for a guy. It's perfectly ok to give and do everything as long as it's worth it... And it's worth it if the guy is treating you right.
6. Do not be scared to lose him. Don't be scared that he'll break up with you. Once you are afraid of losing him, you easily can be taken advantage of. Be strong and if something is unacceptable, do not accept it and speak up.
7. Avoid calling your guy. It's a guy thing. The relationship will definitely be better if it's the guy who's calling, not the girl. He will get tired of you if you keep on calling. He will lose interest and challenge. More so, he will get annoyed. But it's a girl thing also that your fingers get too itchy until you dial his number. But avoid as much as possible. Call only if really needed (like checking if your suspicions are reasonable).
8. Don't settle for a lesbian if you are not attracted to women. There is a man out there who can love you like a girl can. There is a guy who will value you. There is a guy out there who can make you feel valued, appreciated, and loved. And I mean, not just during your first few weeks together. So don't lose hope.
9. Do not ever fall for a guy who has another girl, be it his wife, girlfriend, or any girl that he says he just can't get rid of for whatever reason. If you truly believe that he loves you and for some reason, he can't leave or let go of another girl, then you are no different from any ordinary mistress.
10. He must respect you. No matter how long the relationship has been, he should always show respect towards you.
11. If he fooled you, end it. Philandering once is enough. You can never trust nor respect the person.
12. Never start a relationship the wrong way. Do not steal another girl's man, for whatever reason. Nor should you enter a relationship for the wrong reasons (loneliness, on the rebound, getting back at your ex, man-dependency, etc.) it is bound not to last. You will only end up wasting more years of your life.
13. Do not force yourself into a relationship. Do not get into a relationship just because your friends are getting impatient with your dating escapades and the one hasn't come yet... Do not choose who to say yes to, based on superficial things like money, looks, cars, etc. If you are even thinking of these things, you have not fallen in love yet.
14. Do not settle. If you are not happy anymore with your relationship, break up instantly. He will not stay with you forever no matter how upright he might seem to be. Eventually, he will also want love and happiness in his life.
15. A relationship has to have love. Love is the only thing that will push you to give your efforts into making the relationship work. And believe me, keeping a relationship requires genuine efforts of both parties.
16. Don't be afraid to be single. It's fun to be single, try it. You can go out whenever and wherever you want. You are free. You can date whomever you want and you get to go out for free! Do not get a boyfriend just for the sake of having one. Do not settle.
17. Be a good girl. Be a good girl to attract a good guy. Enter the relationship with sincere intentions. Take the guy and the relationship seriously with the plan of spending the rest of your life with that person (of course, this is after you had your bit of fun in your younger years). If you compare your flings from your real relationships, you will know that the latter makes you happier and more fulfilled.
18. Love without limits. Whether you loved and gave everything or loved but held out for some things, if the relationship ends, you still get hurt. But if you gave your everything, you were happy and you could say that it was worth it. If you didn't give your all, you get hurt for nothing.
19. You will get over him. Love is over-stated. Love eventually ends and you are free to love another.
20. Be the one. Act like you are the one. Don't be a nagger. Don't hinder his gimmicks. Don't give in to him too easily. Make him treat you as important. Don't be easy. Don't be like every other girl he had in his life. Always be the only one, no matter what. ***
Monday, December 17, 2007
Saturday, December 15, 2007
The beauty of Math for everybody to appreciate!
Beauty of Math!
1 x 8 + 1 = 9
12 x 8 + 2 = 98
123 x 8 + 3 = 987
1234 x 8 + 4 = 9876
12345 x 8 + 5 = 98765
123456 x 8 + 6 = 987654
1234567 x 8 + 7 = 9876543
12345678 x 8 + 8 = 98765432
123456789 x 8 + 9 = 987654321
1 x 9 + 2 = 11
12 x 9 + 3 = 111
123 x 9 + 4 = 1111
1234 x 9 + 5 = 11111
12345 x 9 + 6 = 111111
123456 x 9 + 7 = 1111111
1234567 x 9 + 8 = 11111111
12345678 x 9 + 9 = 111111111
123456789 x 9 +10= 1111111111
9 x 9 + 7 = 88
98 x 9 + 6 = 888
987 x 9 + 5 = 8888
9876 x 9 + 4 = 88888
98765 x 9 + 3 = 888888
987654 x 9 + 2 = 8888888
9876543 x 9 + 1 = 88888888
98765432 x 9 + 0 = 888888888
Brilliant, isn't it?
And look at this symmetry:
1 x 1 = 1
11 x 11 = 121
111 x 111 = 12321
1111 x 1111 = 1234321
11111 x 11111 = 123454321
111111 x 111111 = 12345654321
1111111 x 1111111 = 1234567654321
11111111 x 11111111 = 123456787654321
111111111 x 111111111=123456789 87654321
Now, take a look at this... 101%
From a strictly mathematical viewpoint:
What Equals 100%? What does it mean to give MORE than 100%?
Ever wonder about those people who say they are giving more than 100%?
We have all been in situations where someone wants you to GIVE OVER 100%.
How about ACHIEVING 101%?
What equals 100% in life?
Here's a little mathematical formula that might help answer these questions:
If:
A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z
Is represented as:
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26.
If:
H-A-R-D-W-O- R- K
8+1+18+4+23+15+18+11 = 98%
And:
K-N-O-W-L-E-D-G-E
11+14+15+23+12+5+4+7+ 5 = 96%
But:
A-T-T-I-T-U-D-E
1+20+20+9+20+21+4+5 = 100%
THEN, look how far the love of God will take you:
L-O-V-E-O-F-G-O-D
12+15+22+5+15+6+7+15+4 = 101%
Therefore, one can conclude with mathematical certainty that:
While Hard Work and Knowledge will get you close,
and Attitude will get you there,
It's the Love of God that will put you over the top!
1 x 8 + 1 = 9
12 x 8 + 2 = 98
123 x 8 + 3 = 987
1234 x 8 + 4 = 9876
12345 x 8 + 5 = 98765
123456 x 8 + 6 = 987654
1234567 x 8 + 7 = 9876543
12345678 x 8 + 8 = 98765432
123456789 x 8 + 9 = 987654321
1 x 9 + 2 = 11
12 x 9 + 3 = 111
123 x 9 + 4 = 1111
1234 x 9 + 5 = 11111
12345 x 9 + 6 = 111111
123456 x 9 + 7 = 1111111
1234567 x 9 + 8 = 11111111
12345678 x 9 + 9 = 111111111
123456789 x 9 +10= 1111111111
9 x 9 + 7 = 88
98 x 9 + 6 = 888
987 x 9 + 5 = 8888
9876 x 9 + 4 = 88888
98765 x 9 + 3 = 888888
987654 x 9 + 2 = 8888888
9876543 x 9 + 1 = 88888888
98765432 x 9 + 0 = 888888888
Brilliant, isn't it?
And look at this symmetry:
1 x 1 = 1
11 x 11 = 121
111 x 111 = 12321
1111 x 1111 = 1234321
11111 x 11111 = 123454321
111111 x 111111 = 12345654321
1111111 x 1111111 = 1234567654321
11111111 x 11111111 = 123456787654321
111111111 x 111111111=123456789 87654321
Now, take a look at this... 101%
From a strictly mathematical viewpoint:
What Equals 100%? What does it mean to give MORE than 100%?
Ever wonder about those people who say they are giving more than 100%?
We have all been in situations where someone wants you to GIVE OVER 100%.
How about ACHIEVING 101%?
What equals 100% in life?
Here's a little mathematical formula that might help answer these questions:
If:
A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z
Is represented as:
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26.
If:
H-A-R-D-W-O- R- K
8+1+18+4+23+15+18+11 = 98%
And:
K-N-O-W-L-E-D-G-E
11+14+15+23+12+5+4+7+ 5 = 96%
But:
A-T-T-I-T-U-D-E
1+20+20+9+20+21+4+5 = 100%
THEN, look how far the love of God will take you:
L-O-V-E-O-F-G-O-D
12+15+22+5+15+6+7+15+4 = 101%
Therefore, one can conclude with mathematical certainty that:
While Hard Work and Knowledge will get you close,
and Attitude will get you there,
It's the Love of God that will put you over the top!
Monday, December 3, 2007
About Men
Advice from Oprah about men
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends".? A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better."? You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun... even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
Never move into his mother's house.
Never co-sign for a man.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other women... You'll make someone smile, another rethink
her choices, and another woman prepare.
We could learn a lot from crayons:
some are sharp, some are pretty,
some are dull, some have weird names,
and all are different colors....but
they all exist very nicely in the same box.
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends".? A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better."? You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun... even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
Never move into his mother's house.
Never co-sign for a man.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other women... You'll make someone smile, another rethink
her choices, and another woman prepare.
We could learn a lot from crayons:
some are sharp, some are pretty,
some are dull, some have weird names,
and all are different colors....but
they all exist very nicely in the same box.
26 Things That A Perfect Guy Would Do...
1. Know how to make you smile when you are down.
2. Try to secretly smell your hair, but you always notice.
3. Stick up for you, but still respects your independence.
4. Give you the remote control during the game.
5. Come up behind you and put his arms around you.
6. Play with your hair.
7. His hands always find yours.
8. Be cute when he really wants something.
9 . Offer you plenty of massages.
10. Dance with you, even if he feels like a dork.
11. Never run out of love.
12. Be funny, but know how to be serious.
13. Realize he's being funny when he needs to be serious.
14. Be patient when you take forever to get ready.
15. React so cutely when you hit him and it actually hurts .
16. Smile a lot.
17. Plans a romantic date full of cheesy things he wouldn't normally like to do, just because he knows it means a lot to you.
18. Appreciate you.
19. Help others out.
20. Drive 5 hours just to see you for 1.
21. Always gives you a peck on the cheek when you depart from each others company, even when his friends are watching.
22. Sing, even if he can't.
23. Have a sense of humor
24. Stare at you.
25. Call for no reason.
26. Quit smoking, drinking, chewing or drugs - just because he loves you.
2. Try to secretly smell your hair, but you always notice.
3. Stick up for you, but still respects your independence.
4. Give you the remote control during the game.
5. Come up behind you and put his arms around you.
6. Play with your hair.
7. His hands always find yours.
8. Be cute when he really wants something.
9 . Offer you plenty of massages.
10. Dance with you, even if he feels like a dork.
11. Never run out of love.
12. Be funny, but know how to be serious.
13. Realize he's being funny when he needs to be serious.
14. Be patient when you take forever to get ready.
15. React so cutely when you hit him and it actually hurts .
16. Smile a lot.
17. Plans a romantic date full of cheesy things he wouldn't normally like to do, just because he knows it means a lot to you.
18. Appreciate you.
19. Help others out.
20. Drive 5 hours just to see you for 1.
21. Always gives you a peck on the cheek when you depart from each others company, even when his friends are watching.
22. Sing, even if he can't.
23. Have a sense of humor
24. Stare at you.
25. Call for no reason.
26. Quit smoking, drinking, chewing or drugs - just because he loves you.
Saturday, December 1, 2007
10 Signs He's in Love
Taken from: iVillage - Understanding Men/What He's Thinking
You've dated your fair share of women and have always enjoyed keeping your options open, but lately there's this one woman that has you wondering if she's "the one." In order to help you figure this out, Askmen.com have compiled the following list of the top 10 ways to know you're in love.
10. You've forgotten your ex - More often than not, a breakup is followed by a significant amount of time spent thinking about your ex and wondering whether or not you made the right decision in going your separate ways. Depending on how long the two of you were together, these doubts can resurface again and again.
Ever since you met this new one, however, the thought of getting back together with your ex is the furthest thing from your mind. Come to think of it, you barely recall what you found so great about her in the first place.
9. You can't stop thinking about her - Instead, you are consumed by thoughts of her. She just pops into your head for no apparent reason, and you wonder if she thinks of you half as much as you think of her. You wonder what she's up to and even consider calling her (but refrain from doing so for fear of looking overeager).
But it gets worse. You're out with your friends and you see something in a shop window and think about how much she would like that particular item, or you notice a poster for a show that she would love, but normally wouldn't even have looked twice at it.
If she's the last thing on your mind before you go to sleep and the first thing on your mind when you wake up — and you've even dreamed of her on a couple of occasions — then you don't really even need to read on to know if you're in love (but should anyway, just to be sure).
8. You care about her - There is a reason why you don't really want to know too much about the chick you had a one-night stand with: You don't love her. When you're in love with a woman, you want to know all about her: who she is, what she thinks, what makes her laugh. You truly care about her and her feelings.
If you truly love a woman, you feel bad if she had a bad day or is upset about something. You don't try to cheer her up because you have to, but because you can't help it.
7. You find her quirks charming - The fact that she carries her passport with her everywhere she goes — just in case — and that, when she's eating, she can't help but construct every forkful so that it's the perfect blend of ingredients fills you with an inexplicable feeling of happiness.
She does and says things that make her different, and you like it. You can't quite put your finger on why, but it doesn't even matter. You like her just the way she is.
6. You have great chemistry - You can't be in love with someone that you have no chemistry with. If you seem to always be on the same wavelength, and think in similar ways, that's a great sign. If you also generate enough heat to set off a five-alarm fire bell, then she is probably someone that you could fall in love with, if you aren't there already.
5. You don't notice other women as much - Did you see that gorgeous woman that just walked by? What do you mean, "no"?!?
Although you can't help noticing a beautiful woman when one walks by, when you're in love, some of them tend to slip under the radar, while others just pale in comparison to her. Furthermore, you don't seem to be flirting half as much as you used to.
You are slowly realizing that she's often the only woman in the room that matters, and for some reason that suits you just fine.
4. You love spending time with her - This one is pretty obvious but important nonetheless. You look forward to seeing her, and don't care much about what the two of you will be doing. Lately, just going for a walk with her sounds like the best way you could possibly spend an evening.
Furthermore, when you're not together, you miss her and wish you were spending time together.
3. You don't mind compromising sometimes - There was a time when it was your way or the highway, but with her it's different. Not that she asks you to, but you don't mind missing a night out with the guys to be with her. And you find yourself trying to incorporate her into your plans or altering them to accommodate her.
You also find yourself not putting up a fight when she wants to go to Shakespeare in the Park. Although your friends find this very amusing, you know that deep down, they wish that they had found a love like yours.
2. Other priorities take a back seat - You used to train religiously, but lately, if she's free for dinner, you don't mind missing a workout. Not only that, but your workaholic tendency of bringing home your work on weekends to get ahead seems a bit excessive to you as of late.
Your ever-important "to do" list seems quite stagnant these days, as being with her always manages to render your other plans and obligations obsolete. What was it that you absolutely had to do by four o'clock again?
1. You start thinking about the future and she's in it - It used to be that the future with a woman meant your date on Saturday night, but with this woman, the future seems infinite. Not only do you plan to see her this weekend, but you want to see her a year from now as well.
When planning your next vacation, you know you want to spend it with her, and not a random beach bunny you happen to meet while you're there. And when you get an invitation to a wedding that takes place three months from now, you ask her to be your date without thinking that it's too far away to tell if you'll still be together.
She's the one
If you are currently dating a woman that makes you act in any of the ways mentioned above, then you, my friend, are seriously falling for her. It's time to put away the little black book for a while and enjoy the ride.
You've dated your fair share of women and have always enjoyed keeping your options open, but lately there's this one woman that has you wondering if she's "the one." In order to help you figure this out, Askmen.com have compiled the following list of the top 10 ways to know you're in love.
10. You've forgotten your ex - More often than not, a breakup is followed by a significant amount of time spent thinking about your ex and wondering whether or not you made the right decision in going your separate ways. Depending on how long the two of you were together, these doubts can resurface again and again.
Ever since you met this new one, however, the thought of getting back together with your ex is the furthest thing from your mind. Come to think of it, you barely recall what you found so great about her in the first place.
9. You can't stop thinking about her - Instead, you are consumed by thoughts of her. She just pops into your head for no apparent reason, and you wonder if she thinks of you half as much as you think of her. You wonder what she's up to and even consider calling her (but refrain from doing so for fear of looking overeager).
But it gets worse. You're out with your friends and you see something in a shop window and think about how much she would like that particular item, or you notice a poster for a show that she would love, but normally wouldn't even have looked twice at it.
If she's the last thing on your mind before you go to sleep and the first thing on your mind when you wake up — and you've even dreamed of her on a couple of occasions — then you don't really even need to read on to know if you're in love (but should anyway, just to be sure).
8. You care about her - There is a reason why you don't really want to know too much about the chick you had a one-night stand with: You don't love her. When you're in love with a woman, you want to know all about her: who she is, what she thinks, what makes her laugh. You truly care about her and her feelings.
If you truly love a woman, you feel bad if she had a bad day or is upset about something. You don't try to cheer her up because you have to, but because you can't help it.
7. You find her quirks charming - The fact that she carries her passport with her everywhere she goes — just in case — and that, when she's eating, she can't help but construct every forkful so that it's the perfect blend of ingredients fills you with an inexplicable feeling of happiness.
She does and says things that make her different, and you like it. You can't quite put your finger on why, but it doesn't even matter. You like her just the way she is.
6. You have great chemistry - You can't be in love with someone that you have no chemistry with. If you seem to always be on the same wavelength, and think in similar ways, that's a great sign. If you also generate enough heat to set off a five-alarm fire bell, then she is probably someone that you could fall in love with, if you aren't there already.
5. You don't notice other women as much - Did you see that gorgeous woman that just walked by? What do you mean, "no"?!?
Although you can't help noticing a beautiful woman when one walks by, when you're in love, some of them tend to slip under the radar, while others just pale in comparison to her. Furthermore, you don't seem to be flirting half as much as you used to.
You are slowly realizing that she's often the only woman in the room that matters, and for some reason that suits you just fine.
4. You love spending time with her - This one is pretty obvious but important nonetheless. You look forward to seeing her, and don't care much about what the two of you will be doing. Lately, just going for a walk with her sounds like the best way you could possibly spend an evening.
Furthermore, when you're not together, you miss her and wish you were spending time together.
3. You don't mind compromising sometimes - There was a time when it was your way or the highway, but with her it's different. Not that she asks you to, but you don't mind missing a night out with the guys to be with her. And you find yourself trying to incorporate her into your plans or altering them to accommodate her.
You also find yourself not putting up a fight when she wants to go to Shakespeare in the Park. Although your friends find this very amusing, you know that deep down, they wish that they had found a love like yours.
2. Other priorities take a back seat - You used to train religiously, but lately, if she's free for dinner, you don't mind missing a workout. Not only that, but your workaholic tendency of bringing home your work on weekends to get ahead seems a bit excessive to you as of late.
Your ever-important "to do" list seems quite stagnant these days, as being with her always manages to render your other plans and obligations obsolete. What was it that you absolutely had to do by four o'clock again?
1. You start thinking about the future and she's in it - It used to be that the future with a woman meant your date on Saturday night, but with this woman, the future seems infinite. Not only do you plan to see her this weekend, but you want to see her a year from now as well.
When planning your next vacation, you know you want to spend it with her, and not a random beach bunny you happen to meet while you're there. And when you get an invitation to a wedding that takes place three months from now, you ask her to be your date without thinking that it's too far away to tell if you'll still be together.
She's the one
If you are currently dating a woman that makes you act in any of the ways mentioned above, then you, my friend, are seriously falling for her. It's time to put away the little black book for a while and enjoy the ride.
He "loves you" but he is not "in love" with you...
Taken From: iVillage - Understanding Men
What does it mean when a guy says he "loves you" but doesn't think that he's "in love" with you?
Mr. Answer Man of Askmen.com says: It means that he needs to grow a spine.
Quibbling over shades of definition is one of the unfortunate things guys do when they're ashamed of their feelings, in this case being afraid to tell the hard truth that he's not in love with you. Worse still, it often occurs when a man is trying to have his cake and eat it too, e.g., stay in a relationship while not allowing it to advance beyond his current comfort level.
The antidote to such doublespeak is to hit it with a little truth of your own and then see what that reveals. If his philosophizing on "love vs. in love" were met with, "Fine. Call me when you're in love," Mr. Wishy-Washy might find his backbone pronto. And if the call never comes, so much the better -- you're now free to find a man who loves you enough to be in love with you too.
Back to Why He Does That?
What does it mean when a guy says he "loves you" but doesn't think that he's "in love" with you?
Mr. Answer Man of Askmen.com says: It means that he needs to grow a spine.
Quibbling over shades of definition is one of the unfortunate things guys do when they're ashamed of their feelings, in this case being afraid to tell the hard truth that he's not in love with you. Worse still, it often occurs when a man is trying to have his cake and eat it too, e.g., stay in a relationship while not allowing it to advance beyond his current comfort level.
The antidote to such doublespeak is to hit it with a little truth of your own and then see what that reveals. If his philosophizing on "love vs. in love" were met with, "Fine. Call me when you're in love," Mr. Wishy-Washy might find his backbone pronto. And if the call never comes, so much the better -- you're now free to find a man who loves you enough to be in love with you too.
Back to Why He Does That?
Thursday, November 22, 2007
A reason, a season or a lifetime?
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered
and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant .
Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered
and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant .
Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.
Wednesday, November 14, 2007
How To Lose Ten Pounds in 3 Days
STYLE S.O.S.
by Tingting Cojuangco, Lucy Torres-Gomez and Rissa M. Samson
Philippine Star, 14 November 2007
Miss Cojuangco writes:
OF COURSE you will lose weight, anybody on this "diet" will lose weight because of the super low calories taken, You cannot follow this diet for 2 weeks straight because, well the super low calories, you will have no energy, you will faint. On this "Starvation diet" you will first lose water, then lose muscle and lastly your fat will go. Thats why it can only be done 3 days straight, 4 days re-loading on carbs. They call this "diet" carbo cycling and yes you lose mega pounds OF WATER in the first 3 days. No fat will be lost untill you start to re-feed on the regular days to boost your metabolism and do it again So 3 days on the diet, 4 days off etc. Here are the calories for your day 1:
coffee - 0 calories
equal 2 sachets - 4 calories
1/2 grapefruit - 32 calories
toast sliced bread - 32 calories
peanut butter, 1 table spoon - 94 calories
Breakfast total - 162
tuna - 109 calories
toast sliced bread - 32 calories
coffee - 0 calories
equal 2 sachets - 4 calories
Lunch total - 145
3 oz skinless chicken breast - 141 calories
1 cup green beans - 34 calories
1 cup carrots - 40 calories
1 apple - 70 calories
1 cup regular vanilla ice cream - 280 calories
Dinner total - 565
TOTAL DAILY CALORIES - 872
with this low calories you should not even try to exercise, you will lose weight while getting a massage.
To lose 1 pound of fat you need to burn 3500 calories.
In order to lose 1 pound of fat and you are on a 1000 calorie diet (when female) and your resting metabolic rate is 1500 calories daily (meaning if you consume 1500 calories daily you will not gain or lose weight)
So with out exercise on a 1000 calorie diet you should lose 1 pound a week.
When you exercise / burn more calories you could speed this up to 1.5 pound/week or so.
Losing more "weight" than this is not healthy and it will not be fat alone but muscle as well.
You can lose 4-5 pounds a week of fat if you are overweight, than fat will fly off like crazy for the few month or so.
I say:
With a catering and food business running almost 24/7, I hope I find the discipline to even try. Here's a look at my typical lunch:
Roast Beef in Mushroom Gravy Sauce, Stir-fried Vegetables and Seafoods in Oyster Sauce, Fried Banana Cutlets, Tortang Talong and Freshly Brewed Coffee
by Tingting Cojuangco, Lucy Torres-Gomez and Rissa M. Samson
Philippine Star, 14 November 2007
Miss Cojuangco writes:
Do this 3-Day Diet. Believe me, it works. Follow the diet three days of the week until you reach your desired weight.
Important: Drink four glasses of water or diet soda per day. You can add herbs, salt, pepper, vinegar, Worcestershire sauce, mustard or ketchup to your food.
Note: Follow the diet for three days and lose 10 pounds. It works based on a chemical reaction so you must eat everything in the diet without substituting.
This is scientifically proven. You can have as much water, tea, salt, pepper as you like but no other seasonings. After going on the three-day diet, you can eat normally for four days and then go back to it. But do not overeat on those four days.
This diet has been tried and tested, and is guaranteed effective. It worked on my staff and officers of the Philippine Public Safety College — they’ve gotten leaner and I saw the big difference myself!
DAY 1
Breakfast
Black coffee or tea (with 1-2 packets of Sweet & Low or Equal)
1/2 grapefruit or juice
1 toast with 1 tablespoon peanut butter
Lunch
1/2 cup of tuna
1 toast
Black coffee or tea (with 1-2 packets of Sweet & Low or Equal)
Dinner
3 ounces any lean meat or chicken
1 cup green beans
1 cup carrots
1 apple
1 cup regular vanilla ice cream
DAY 2
Breakfast
Black coffee or tea (with 1-2 packets of Sweet & Low or Equal)
1 egg
1/2 banana
1 toast
Lunch
1 cup cottage cheese or tuna
8 regular saltine crackers
Dinner
2 beef franks
1 cup broccoli or cabbage
1/2 cup carrots
1/2 banana
1/2 cup regular vanilla ice cream
DAY 3
Breakfast
Black coffee or tea (with 1-2 packets of Sweet & Low or Equal)
5 regular saltine crackers
1 ounce cheddar cheese
1 apple
Lunch
1 boiled egg
1 toast
Black coffee or tea (with 1-2 packets of Sweet & Low or Equal)
Dinner
1 cup tuna
1 cup carrots
1 cup cauliflower
1 cup melon
1/2 cup regular vanilla ice cream
OF COURSE you will lose weight, anybody on this "diet" will lose weight because of the super low calories taken, You cannot follow this diet for 2 weeks straight because, well the super low calories, you will have no energy, you will faint. On this "Starvation diet" you will first lose water, then lose muscle and lastly your fat will go. Thats why it can only be done 3 days straight, 4 days re-loading on carbs. They call this "diet" carbo cycling and yes you lose mega pounds OF WATER in the first 3 days. No fat will be lost untill you start to re-feed on the regular days to boost your metabolism and do it again So 3 days on the diet, 4 days off etc. Here are the calories for your day 1:
coffee - 0 calories
equal 2 sachets - 4 calories
1/2 grapefruit - 32 calories
toast sliced bread - 32 calories
peanut butter, 1 table spoon - 94 calories
Breakfast total - 162
tuna - 109 calories
toast sliced bread - 32 calories
coffee - 0 calories
equal 2 sachets - 4 calories
Lunch total - 145
3 oz skinless chicken breast - 141 calories
1 cup green beans - 34 calories
1 cup carrots - 40 calories
1 apple - 70 calories
1 cup regular vanilla ice cream - 280 calories
Dinner total - 565
TOTAL DAILY CALORIES - 872
with this low calories you should not even try to exercise, you will lose weight while getting a massage.
To lose 1 pound of fat you need to burn 3500 calories.
In order to lose 1 pound of fat and you are on a 1000 calorie diet (when female) and your resting metabolic rate is 1500 calories daily (meaning if you consume 1500 calories daily you will not gain or lose weight)
So with out exercise on a 1000 calorie diet you should lose 1 pound a week.
When you exercise / burn more calories you could speed this up to 1.5 pound/week or so.
Losing more "weight" than this is not healthy and it will not be fat alone but muscle as well.
You can lose 4-5 pounds a week of fat if you are overweight, than fat will fly off like crazy for the few month or so.
I say:
With a catering and food business running almost 24/7, I hope I find the discipline to even try. Here's a look at my typical lunch:
Roast Beef in Mushroom Gravy Sauce, Stir-fried Vegetables and Seafoods in Oyster Sauce, Fried Banana Cutlets, Tortang Talong and Freshly Brewed Coffee
Monday, November 12, 2007
The Greatest Advice
- by Rick Warren, the Purpose Driven LIFE
Don't date because you are desperate.
Don't marry because you are miserable.
Don't have kids because you think your genes are superior.
Don't philander because you think you are irresistible.
Don't associate with people you can't trust.
Don't cheat. Don't lie. Don't pretend.
Don't dictate because you are smarter.
Don't demand because you are stronger.
Don't sleep around because you think you are old enough & know better.
Don't hurt your kids because loving them is harder.
Don't sell yourself, your family, or your ideals.
Don't stagnate!
Don't regress.
Don't live in the past. Time can't bring anything or anyone back.
Don't put your life on hold for possibly Mr. Right.
Don't throw your life away on absolutely Mr. Wrong because your biological clock is ticking.
Don't abandon your responsibilities but don't overdose on duty.
Don't live life recklessly without thought and feeling for your family.
Don't commit when you are not ready.
Don't keep others waiting needlessly.
Take care of yourself.
Don't wait for someone to take care of you.
You light up your life.
You drive yourself to your destination.
No one completes you - except YOU.
Don't bring another life into this world for all the wrong reasons.
To feed your nurturing instincts, care for the needy.
To fulfill your parenting fantasies, get a puppy.
To make yourself happy, pursue your passions & be the best of what you can be.
Simplify your life. Take away the clutter.
Get rid of destructive elements: abusive friends, nasty habits, and dangerous liaisons.
Be true to yourself.
Learn a new skill.
Find a new friend.
Start a new career.
Sometimes, there is no race to be won, only a price to be paid for some of life's more hasty decisions.
It isn't true that life does not get easier with age.
It only gets more challenging.
Go on that trip. Don't postpone it.
Say those words. Don't let the moment pass.
Do what you have to, even at society's scorn.
Don't be afraid.
Don't lose your capacity to love.
Pursue your passions.
Live your dreams.
Don't lose faith in God.
Don't grow old. Just grow YOU!
When you give someone your time, you are giving them a portion of your life that you'll never get back. Your time is your life. That is why the greatest gift you can give to someone is your time. Relationships take time and effort, and the best way to spell love is T-I-M-E because the essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others, but how much we give of ourselves.
Don't date because you are desperate.
Don't marry because you are miserable.
Don't have kids because you think your genes are superior.
Don't philander because you think you are irresistible.
Don't associate with people you can't trust.
Don't cheat. Don't lie. Don't pretend.
Don't dictate because you are smarter.
Don't demand because you are stronger.
Don't sleep around because you think you are old enough & know better.
Don't hurt your kids because loving them is harder.
Don't sell yourself, your family, or your ideals.
Don't stagnate!
Don't regress.
Don't live in the past. Time can't bring anything or anyone back.
Don't put your life on hold for possibly Mr. Right.
Don't throw your life away on absolutely Mr. Wrong because your biological clock is ticking.
Don't abandon your responsibilities but don't overdose on duty.
Don't live life recklessly without thought and feeling for your family.
Don't commit when you are not ready.
Don't keep others waiting needlessly.
Take care of yourself.
Don't wait for someone to take care of you.
You light up your life.
You drive yourself to your destination.
No one completes you - except YOU.
Don't bring another life into this world for all the wrong reasons.
To feed your nurturing instincts, care for the needy.
To fulfill your parenting fantasies, get a puppy.
To make yourself happy, pursue your passions & be the best of what you can be.
Simplify your life. Take away the clutter.
Get rid of destructive elements: abusive friends, nasty habits, and dangerous liaisons.
Be true to yourself.
Learn a new skill.
Find a new friend.
Start a new career.
Sometimes, there is no race to be won, only a price to be paid for some of life's more hasty decisions.
It isn't true that life does not get easier with age.
It only gets more challenging.
Go on that trip. Don't postpone it.
Say those words. Don't let the moment pass.
Do what you have to, even at society's scorn.
Don't be afraid.
Don't lose your capacity to love.
Pursue your passions.
Live your dreams.
Don't lose faith in God.
Don't grow old. Just grow YOU!
When you give someone your time, you are giving them a portion of your life that you'll never get back. Your time is your life. That is why the greatest gift you can give to someone is your time. Relationships take time and effort, and the best way to spell love is T-I-M-E because the essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others, but how much we give of ourselves.
Wednesday, November 7, 2007
I must have done something good
I lost my cellphone in NAIA last Saturday. Until now, it's still baffling because I was so sure it was inside my *pink* bag (I was wearing pink shoes, by the way).
I don't use my phone in public places unless I need to meet someone or I am waiting for an important message. I usually place it inside the most secured pocket in my bag. I just keep it on almost-max volume so I know if somebody is calling or has sent a text message.
It was early in the morning and there were only a handful people in the airport counters. I just stood behind the queue and let my companions do the check-in tasks. My companions and I then went through the usual security protocols and decided to have our breakfast near the designated waiting area. I only noticed that my cellphone was missing when I reached for it to send a text to Nanay.
The zipper was open and my cell phone was gone.
I informed my companions about my missing phone. Dr. Cuano, the team leader, immediately dialed my number from his phone thinking that it might just be tucked inside the nooks of my bag. While calling, he barraged me with questions to extract possible explanations why we were not hearing any sound from my bag although it was ringing. My other companions came up with a reason that I might have put it inside my checked-in luggage although they were sure I did not.
After so much searching and ringing, Dr. Cuano and I went back to the check-in counters, terminal fee counters and x-ray areas to check if anybody has found and turned over a phone. Without much luck, we reported the incident to the airport security. I had to be x-rayed several times (I might have swallowed it whole?). My bag, with and without contents, had to be x-rayed several times. All the while, I kept my cool and held my ground. I just followed whatever they asked me to do. I answered whatever questions they had. Anyway, much searching just told me it was definitely gone. Accepting the fact, I just hoped that it would still bring luck and goodwill to whomsoever got it.
Good thing I regularly back up my contacts and there were no incriminating messages there. I feel lucky for the finder. The phone was aSE K750i . It was given to me in September 2005 by a friend in exchange of my SE K700 . Beside the minor scratches, almost new pa din. I rarely used it because I have another phone with 3G that I use more often to access the internet. The only regret I have was that I lost the saved messages from my kids, parents, sisters and friends. I also lost but without much regret, recent messages I got from a seemingly deranged person --- those, would surely fire up the interest of anybody who would read the messages.
Ten minutes before boarding I once again called my number. Maybe by hearing that it has been turned off would set my mind that it was indeed goodbye time for my phone. But alas, a woman answered on the fourth ring! My mind froze and my heart skipped a beat that moment. I immediately proceeded to the area she instructed me to go. I thanked her profusely and asked how it ended up with her. She said that she found the phone on top of the Cagayan de Oro check-in counter 30 minutes prior to our meet. She thought it was her friend's phone so she picked it up and found out it wasn't when she was giving it to her in the waiting area.
We could not yet resolve how it ended in a place 10-12 counters away from where we were. How did it happen when I was so sure it was inside my bag? Hey, this was the airport. Who would steal a cell phone in a supposedly secured area? Why was it with her only in the last 30 minutes when we were in the same area 2 hours earlier? Why was it not answered when we were constantly ringing it and surely could be heard few meters away? The security people theorized that somebody might have taken hold of it but when they publicly announced that it was missing the person might have put it on top of the counter. It could be checked with the security camera but we refused to do so.
I don't know really. To quote Dr Cuano, it was indeed good-over-evil. Swerte daw talaga ako. I might have done something good to be able to get it back.
I don't use my phone in public places unless I need to meet someone or I am waiting for an important message. I usually place it inside the most secured pocket in my bag. I just keep it on almost-max volume so I know if somebody is calling or has sent a text message.
It was early in the morning and there were only a handful people in the airport counters. I just stood behind the queue and let my companions do the check-in tasks. My companions and I then went through the usual security protocols and decided to have our breakfast near the designated waiting area. I only noticed that my cellphone was missing when I reached for it to send a text to Nanay.
The zipper was open and my cell phone was gone.
I informed my companions about my missing phone. Dr. Cuano, the team leader, immediately dialed my number from his phone thinking that it might just be tucked inside the nooks of my bag. While calling, he barraged me with questions to extract possible explanations why we were not hearing any sound from my bag although it was ringing. My other companions came up with a reason that I might have put it inside my checked-in luggage although they were sure I did not.
After so much searching and ringing, Dr. Cuano and I went back to the check-in counters, terminal fee counters and x-ray areas to check if anybody has found and turned over a phone. Without much luck, we reported the incident to the airport security. I had to be x-rayed several times (I might have swallowed it whole?). My bag, with and without contents, had to be x-rayed several times. All the while, I kept my cool and held my ground. I just followed whatever they asked me to do. I answered whatever questions they had. Anyway, much searching just told me it was definitely gone. Accepting the fact, I just hoped that it would still bring luck and goodwill to whomsoever got it.
Good thing I regularly back up my contacts and there were no incriminating messages there. I feel lucky for the finder. The phone was a
Ten minutes before boarding I once again called my number. Maybe by hearing that it has been turned off would set my mind that it was indeed goodbye time for my phone. But alas, a woman answered on the fourth ring! My mind froze and my heart skipped a beat that moment. I immediately proceeded to the area she instructed me to go. I thanked her profusely and asked how it ended up with her. She said that she found the phone on top of the Cagayan de Oro check-in counter 30 minutes prior to our meet. She thought it was her friend's phone so she picked it up and found out it wasn't when she was giving it to her in the waiting area.
We could not yet resolve how it ended in a place 10-12 counters away from where we were. How did it happen when I was so sure it was inside my bag? Hey, this was the airport. Who would steal a cell phone in a supposedly secured area? Why was it with her only in the last 30 minutes when we were in the same area 2 hours earlier? Why was it not answered when we were constantly ringing it and surely could be heard few meters away? The security people theorized that somebody might have taken hold of it but when they publicly announced that it was missing the person might have put it on top of the counter. It could be checked with the security camera but we refused to do so.
I don't know really. To quote Dr Cuano, it was indeed good-over-evil. Swerte daw talaga ako. I might have done something good to be able to get it back.
Wednesday, October 31, 2007
Havianas Super Sale!
It's the Slipper Sale of the Season!Received via e-mail from Havaianas Philippines.
From October 30 to November 30, 2007, most styles of your favorite flip-flops will be on sale at 20% off. Take advantage of this rare chance to finally buy all those Havaianas you've been eyeing year long at great prices--before they are phased out of the collection.
In Metro Manila, Havaianas are available in All Flip-Flops, Chocolate Clothing Company, Celio, Gas, Kidsports, Orange Juice, Moana, Nail Spa, Rustan's, Stoked, Sepatu and The Zone.
For more store details and provincial outlets, visit www.havaianasphilippines.com.
* Availability of styles vary per store
Thursday, April 12, 2007
The Detoxification
Pictures during detoxification with the Ion Cleanse Detox Machine
(April 2007)
The set-up - ion cleanse detox machine set at power "5", conductivity range of 15 to 20, and electricity range of 1.5 to 2.2 A.
The end - after 30 minutes of detoxification.
The toxins - it is actually more of rust orange than brown (although it looks reddish in the picture). The particles were grainy and not dissolved in the water --- no smell, no icky feeling.
(April 2007)
The set-up - ion cleanse detox machine set at power "5", conductivity range of 15 to 20, and electricity range of 1.5 to 2.2 A.
The end - after 30 minutes of detoxification.
The toxins - it is actually more of rust orange than brown (although it looks reddish in the picture). The particles were grainy and not dissolved in the water --- no smell, no icky feeling.According to the manual, my joints and liver had been detoxified.
The Flowers
Flowers from different occassions
Islandrose Apology flowers (February 2007)
Vietnam flowers (December 2004)
Baguio flowers (February 2006)
Valentine's Day flowers (February 2007)
Islandrose Apology flowers (February 2007)
And the best flowers of all...
Wednesday, April 11, 2007
The Farm
Pictures of the farm in General Tinio, Nueva Ecija (taken April 2007)
The pool, the house and the vehicles
View facing East - the Church 
View facing South - the bedroom windows
View facing West - the pool (being filled up with water by the local BFP)
The bedrooms
The house during nightPictures of mango trees in Cynthia's farm (taken April 2007)
The House
Pictures of the house in Quezon City (taken March 2007)
The gate
View facing North
View facing West
View facing Southwest
Inside the house
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