3 Ways to Handle Haters

In life there’s no avoiding getting haters. We all have our own world views and most of the time those differences will lead to clashes and conflict. It’s even more evident today with the rise of blogging and social networking sites like Facebook and Twitter. ...Here are three tips that I’ve followed and learned through the years that you might find helpful. --- Carlo S. Ople (http://www.carloople.com/)

1. Ignore them.

If there’s one thing you have to understand about haters is that they do not criticize, they attack. They take pleasure in putting you down. There is absolutely no point in trying to engage with them (especially online) because they’ve already made up their mind to shoot you down with their AK-47 even before you raise the flag for parley, lol.

Remove them from your immediate consciousness because they will just wear you down and cause undeserved stress. They can distract you from doing what you’re supposed to be doing. Remember: you can never please them or satisfy them.

What about the feedback that they give? If you have the strength, patience, and will power to see through the hate and find the nuggets of wisdom, then go for it. If not, don’t worry. You can always get feedback from non-haters and it will just be as good, if not better.

HOWEVER, if the time comes that there is a genuine window or opportunity for you to work with them and settle your differences, go for it. Take the initiative and be compassionate.

2. Focus on the work at hand. Keep shipping. Best defense is success.

If you’re worried about them tearing down your reputation then let me share one piece of advice that one of my mentors once told me: the hardest thing to argue against is success. If that’s the case then instead of giving your haters the time of day, focus on your work and in delivering successful products or campaigns.

If you’re just starting out, build on the little successes and let it feed your psyche so that you have the confidence, strength, and determination to follow through. Use your failures as a reminder so that you are more cautious and so that you don’t miss the important little details.

3. Spend more time with the people who really matter to you.

The worst thing you can do is get affected by haters and bring that negativity home to the people that truly matter to your life. Don’t get affected. If ever you do, cast it out before you go home. Draw strength, inspiration, and joy from the love of your family and real friends.

Most importantly, pray for grace. You will not be able to do this on your own.

Don’t get affected. Don’t get infected. Don’t spread it.

Focus. Ship. Love.

The 3 C's of Life

Choice, Chance, Change. You have to make the Choice to take the Chance if you want anything to Change. @WeThinkLife

Reverted to draft my posts regarding my "quest" for 180 Days to Istanbul. No, I won't give you or anybody else the satisfaction of being updated with my life.

I chose, I'm taking chances, and looking forward to changes :-D

The End Goal

Remember that moving on is the end goal – Expressing your feelings will liberate you in a way, but it is important not to dwell on the negative feelings or to over-analyze the situation. Getting stuck in hurtful feelings like blame, anger, and resentment will rob you of valuable energy and prevent you from healing and moving forward.

--- Moving on After a Relationship Ends

Break-up Recovery Pointers

1. Don't ever be sorry for being sad. And don't apologize for crying - what you are going through is completely normal and healthy.

2. Don't bother asking why.

3. Whatever you do, don't listen to any sad songs or music. It will only make you feel worse.

4. Beauty may only be skin deep and true beauty might lie in the soul, but it doesn't hurt to have your outsides looking good when your insides are badly bruised.

5.Don't be bitter.

6. Travel, or go somewhere you've never been. You need to get away from your immediate surroundings and realize that there is huge world out there with endless possibilities and billions of people that you've never met.

7. When you lock yourself in your room - miserable and weepy - the space picks up the negative energy and your room becomes a depressing place to be. You need to let out the sadness and allow some new air in.

8. Find a new passion.

9. Sometimes if you are having difficulty coming to terms with something, all you need to do is to take a step back and look at the bigger picture.

10. Being single doesn't have to be about being alone.

---- Jerry Manuel, author (Who Stole My Magic?)

Ang Stalker na nasa Sudan

Bitter.
Sour graping.
Hindi maka-move on.
... ang stalker na nasa Sudan.

Gestures of Affection

"shoulders pressed against each other, heads inclined toward one another, holding of hands, the hand or the arm resting on the other's thigh, arms around waists, arms resting on shoulders, and standing to the side and behind with the other seated, the former having his arms encircling the other..."

Claims?

Image Source: Philippine Daily Inquirer (30 June 2008)
Thee may sound morbid but thy are instructions (family, friends, others) in case a similar fate befalls thee:
1. Thou shall not agree to any resettlement or waiver. Let the court decide the just and fair compensation;
2. Thou shall get the best lawyers for thee (c/o Cynthia's siblings and Milette G.). The remuneration can be covered by item (1); and
3. Thou shall not endevour to retrieve thy body. Thee rather be entombed in the sea and than be retrieved whilst no person can agnize thy body.

n_i_n_e_t_t_e has updated her Friendster Blog

Need magsipag. Need rumaket.

• Mahal na ng gasolina - ikain na lang sa Jollibee ng burger steak or ng spaghetti kaysa i-glug, glug, glug lang ng makina ng kotse. Ang MRT, fx, bus and jeep ang mga bago ko ka-tropa nagyon. Jologs na jologs nga lang ang dating ko and wala talaga ka-glamour glamour ang makipagsiksikan sa madlang people pero need and i-psyche na lang ang self that it's going to be worth every centavo saved.

• Mahal ng school service ha - my golly, eh syempre parang system loss ng Meralco yan. Pass to the consumer ang cost ng gasoline. Sige, ayaw mag-school service? Baka naman mas malaki pa ang gastusin sa hospital pag nasagasaan sa pagtawid ang mga precious.

• Dysfunctional digestive system - laging gutom ang dalawang sundalo. Kulang pa daw na baon sa maghapon ang: 2 tinapay, 2 C2 500 mL, 1 bote mineral water, 1.5 tasa ng kanin at sangdamakmak na ulam. Kahit na kalde-kalderong kanin ang kinakain sa umaga at bandehadong meryenda ang kinakana pagdating sa hapon. Buti na lang andyan ang canteen ni nanay.

• Bahay-ng-kalapati-in-the-making - malapit na!!!!

• Ford Everest - yung kulay blue din. Pero makikisakay na lang ako kay Cynthia, mahal na din ang diesel hahahaha.

• Unang milyones sa edad y trienta'y singko - in english first million at the age of 35. CASH. In tagalog, kash. In USDollars (pero realistic ako kaya in pesos na lang). Yup, O*N*E M*I*L*L*I*O*N C*A*S*H. Not in term of properties or assets. Basta cash sa bank. At sympre dapat wala din utang o liabilities.

Eksena sa Umagang Kayganda this morning: meron silang segment sa show kung san they get poor people and kung ano ano makabagbag damdaming kwento at makalubag loob na background music. Ang siste, a celeb or an ABS-CBN talent will donate something to swap for money/goods na kailangan ng (exploited) poor people. Kanina, mag-asawa na may 6 na anak. Ang tatay nakiki-extra sa tricycle. Ang nanay ewan. Ang kwento ng buhay nila nakikihiram ng kaldero sa kapitbahay para makapag-luto sila. So kung hindi ipahiram, eh wah sila tsibog. To make it mas nakakaawa natangay pa ni Frank ang bahay nila. Ang hiling ng nanay, kaldero daw.
Ang iPod ni Korina Sanchez, kapalit ay kaldero. Syempre ang mga dupang na sponsors, kanya kanyang donations na "livelihood showcase" (eh hindi nga kaya pakainin ang mga dyunakis, mag-tinda pa kaya ng produktong wala naman nakakakilala?). Si Donita, donate ang tsinelas nya.
Ano ba?!?!
Ako lang ba ang hindi natutuwa?
Oo sige, may natutulungan ang show. Hindi "nagbibigay ng pera" kundi kabuhayan ang bigay nila. Pero naman, stop, look and listen. Ang laki-laki ng katawan ng tatay at haler, ang buhok ng nanay de-kulay. Atsaka wala sila makita trabaho? Ang laki ng katawan nila noh. Nakakaya nga nila gumawa ng sangkaterbang bata!
Eh bakit may nagtya-tyaga mag-walis sa EDSA, may traffic enforcers, at madami pang iba? Punta sila sa ilalim ng overpass sa QAve and EDSA, araw-araw may pa-training dun sa mga walang makitang trabaho.
Wala naman yumaman na instant. Kahit ang mga nanalo sa lotto at suwipistik, nagtyaga ang mga yan pumila (meron nga ba nanalo dito?). Si Manny Pacquiao, bago magkaroon ng milyon milyon yan katakot takot na bugbog ang inabot ng katawan at ulo nyan. Even Bill Gates, nagpuyat at nalipasan ng gutom yan bago naging milyonaryo. Madami na akong nasaksihan sa mga tauhan ng nanay ko. Hindi nakatapos ng pag-aaral ang karamihan pero pag nagpakita ng kasipagan, tyaga, maging honest and appreciative sa kahit na anong blessing, dadating ang panahon na makakaalwan din.
Mahirap ang buhay. Kahit sino (dollars man o peso ang sweldo) ang hirap ng buhay ngayon. Lahat ng pagtitipid gagawin para makaraos. Pero kung iaasa na lang sa swerte o sa ibang tao talagang wala mangyayari. Hindi masama mangarap. Yun na nga lang daw ang libre eh. Kaya lang dapat kumilos.
So bottomline... back to work. Neet to act for my first millon in cash.
Cross-posted at: http://takeitallaway.blogs.friendster.com/blue/2008/07/ninette_has_upd.html

Dear God Series 01

Will it be worth it? --- Part 1

An effort to practice "one carless day a week" by taking the MRT

A typical morning rush (GMA Station)

Find your own space, brace yourself and pray to survive

Frustrated riders --- because they were not able to (literally) push their way in the train? Very typical at the Cubao Station --- even at times when the coaches are not full, commuters from this station would still be pushing and gnarling at each other.

Still a long queue out...

Consolation for a 15-minute this-must-be-the-train-to-hell-loaded-with-people-believing-that-riding-the-MRT-gives-them-the-right-to-physically-hurt-and-verbally-abuse-others.

Ah, so delite-ful cheese!

How big are you?

Try to wrap your mind around this - it's rather dazzling to see it presented this way...

Beyond our sun... it's a big universe


Antares is the 15th biggest star in the sky. It is more than 1,000 light years away.

This is a hubble telescope ultra deep field infrared view of countless "entire" galaxies billions of light years away.

Below is a close-up of one of the darkest regions of the photo above.

Humbling, isn't it?

And how big are the things that upset you today?

Keep life in perspective. Be happy and don't sweat the small stuff!