Hit Musical CAREDIVAS Opens PETA’S 5Oth Theater Season

From WhatsHappening.COM.PH: PETA 50th Season Press Preview - Excerpt from "Care Divas"   

CAREDIVAS dominated the 2011 Philstage Gawad Buhay! Awards, bagging seven trophies including Outstanding Stage Direction, Outstanding Musical Direction, Outstanding Musical Production and Outstanding Ensemble Performance for a Musical. 

Written by LIZA MAGTOTO 
Music & Lyrics by VINCENT DE JESUS
Direction by MARIBEL LEGARDA

Choreography by CARLON MAGTOTO
Costume Design by JOHN ABUL
Set Design by LEO ABAYA
Lighting Design by JONJON VILLAREAL 

CAREDIVAS includes a powerhouse cast of theater actors: MELVIN LEE • RED CONCEPCION • VINCENT DE JESUS • RON ALFONSO • RICCI CHAN • GIO GAHOL • DUDZ TERANA • JASON BARCIAL • BUDDY CARAMAT • MYKE SALOMON • JEF FLORES • PAUL HOLME • LEO RIALP • SHERRY LARA • ERIC DELA • OPHIR BURTON • JOAN BUGCAT • GOLD VILLAR • EKO BAQUIAL • JOSEPH MADRIAGA

Proceeds from the show on Feb 5 (Sunday), 3PM will be used for the HIV awareness projects of LoveYourself, Inc. Grab your tickets now!

Care Divas Show on Feb 5 (Sunday), 3PM for LoveYourself, Inc.

Care Divas for LoveYourself, Inc.

#Caredivas2017 #LoveYourselfPH #PushPH #PETATheater

And life begins...

It's a special day today! Happy Birthday to the one person who makes everyone else's day special. We love you! Takes lots of care! @ninetski

— Matthew (@Maatthheeewww) August 17, 2014

Enjoying Life

Been a while since I posted. So funny to see my "stalker" is still so much interested to look at my relationship-tagged posts hahahaha.

Pitiful. Still not at peace despite your "win"? Maybe you really didn't win or what you have now is all pretentious. Watch out, sabi ng nila, what goes around comes around.

3 Ways to Handle Haters

In life there’s no avoiding getting haters. We all have our own world views and most of the time those differences will lead to clashes and conflict. It’s even more evident today with the rise of blogging and social networking sites like Facebook and Twitter. ...Here are three tips that I’ve followed and learned through the years that you might find helpful. --- Carlo S. Ople (http://www.carloople.com/)

1. Ignore them.

If there’s one thing you have to understand about haters is that they do not criticize, they attack. They take pleasure in putting you down. There is absolutely no point in trying to engage with them (especially online) because they’ve already made up their mind to shoot you down with their AK-47 even before you raise the flag for parley, lol.

Remove them from your immediate consciousness because they will just wear you down and cause undeserved stress. They can distract you from doing what you’re supposed to be doing. Remember: you can never please them or satisfy them.

What about the feedback that they give? If you have the strength, patience, and will power to see through the hate and find the nuggets of wisdom, then go for it. If not, don’t worry. You can always get feedback from non-haters and it will just be as good, if not better.

HOWEVER, if the time comes that there is a genuine window or opportunity for you to work with them and settle your differences, go for it. Take the initiative and be compassionate.

2. Focus on the work at hand. Keep shipping. Best defense is success.

If you’re worried about them tearing down your reputation then let me share one piece of advice that one of my mentors once told me: the hardest thing to argue against is success. If that’s the case then instead of giving your haters the time of day, focus on your work and in delivering successful products or campaigns.

If you’re just starting out, build on the little successes and let it feed your psyche so that you have the confidence, strength, and determination to follow through. Use your failures as a reminder so that you are more cautious and so that you don’t miss the important little details.

3. Spend more time with the people who really matter to you.

The worst thing you can do is get affected by haters and bring that negativity home to the people that truly matter to your life. Don’t get affected. If ever you do, cast it out before you go home. Draw strength, inspiration, and joy from the love of your family and real friends.

Most importantly, pray for grace. You will not be able to do this on your own.

Don’t get affected. Don’t get infected. Don’t spread it.

Focus. Ship. Love.

The 3 C's of Life

Choice, Chance, Change. You have to make the Choice to take the Chance if you want anything to Change. @WeThinkLife

Reverted to draft my posts regarding my "quest" for 180 Days to Istanbul. No, I won't give you or anybody else the satisfaction of being updated with my life.

I chose, I'm taking chances, and looking forward to changes :-D

The End Goal

Remember that moving on is the end goal – Expressing your feelings will liberate you in a way, but it is important not to dwell on the negative feelings or to over-analyze the situation. Getting stuck in hurtful feelings like blame, anger, and resentment will rob you of valuable energy and prevent you from healing and moving forward.

--- Moving on After a Relationship Ends

Day 2: Ang Ngiti

Hayyyy... speechless!

Ang Stalker ... bow!

Nabuhay ka na naman.
Nakita mo na ba si Crispin at Basilio?

Break-up Recovery Pointers

1. Don't ever be sorry for being sad. And don't apologize for crying - what you are going through is completely normal and healthy.

2. Don't bother asking why.

3. Whatever you do, don't listen to any sad songs or music. It will only make you feel worse.

4. Beauty may only be skin deep and true beauty might lie in the soul, but it doesn't hurt to have your outsides looking good when your insides are badly bruised.

5.Don't be bitter.

6. Travel, or go somewhere you've never been. You need to get away from your immediate surroundings and realize that there is huge world out there with endless possibilities and billions of people that you've never met.

7. When you lock yourself in your room - miserable and weepy - the space picks up the negative energy and your room becomes a depressing place to be. You need to let out the sadness and allow some new air in.

8. Find a new passion.

9. Sometimes if you are having difficulty coming to terms with something, all you need to do is to take a step back and look at the bigger picture.

10. Being single doesn't have to be about being alone.

---- Jerry Manuel, author (Who Stole My Magic?)

Ang Stalker na nasa Sudan

Bitter.
Sour graping.
Hindi maka-move on.
... ang stalker na nasa Sudan.

Gestures of Affection

"shoulders pressed against each other, heads inclined toward one another, holding of hands, the hand or the arm resting on the other's thigh, arms around waists, arms resting on shoulders, and standing to the side and behind with the other seated, the former having his arms encircling the other..."

Grabe na ang pagka-desperada
Ulo ay talagang sira na
Sapagkat sariling kamag-anak pakinggan sya ay ayaw na
Kwento ay imbento at tagpi-tagpi nakakasawa na.

Totoo nga yata ang sabi nila
Madalas ka nakikita
Naglalakad mag-isa
Sarili ay kinakausap pa.

Pagpansin sa iyo ay hindi na nga ginagawa
Pagsunod mo tuloy ay mukha ng nakakaawa
Gustuhin ko man sa iyo ay matuwa
Hindi ko naman alam ang iyong mukha.

Sa katiting mong pag-iisip
Siguradong mga sinabi ko ay hindi mahahagip
Gusto mo mga salita ay isalin
Sa lingguahe mong bisaya aking gagawin.

Huh?!?!

Anong klaseng pag-iisip
Anong level ng kredibildad
Makakaisip ng email add
"urmyheartaches35@yahoo.com"

Hindi mo na nga kailangan pa check-up
Sa piniling mong email add
Halatang pag-iisip mo ay salat!

Hala!

Next time I google ninyo ako

Siguraduhing untraceable kayo

Mas madaming paraan para may malaman kayo

Ingat baka sa susunod summons na dumating sa inyo.

I know who you are...

Simple lang.

Kilatisin kita?

Bakit kami mag-aaksaya ng oras?

Para sa isang taong ayaw magpakilala.

Salamat sa walang sawang pagsubaybay.

Mag-enjoy ka ngayon.

Baka ang institusyong kinabibilangan

Ang syang maging dahilan

Upang matuldukan

Ang iyong kinabukasan.

Achieving Healthy Emotional "Closure" When Relationships End

by Rachel G. Baldino, MSW, LCSW for www.SixWise.com


Any useful discussion about achieving "closure" at the conclusion of a relationship or friendship should start with a solid working definition of the term "closure."
For our purposes, think of "relationship closure" like this: 

A person has achieved relationship closure when, following the ending of a romantic relationship or friendship, she feels that all of the final emotional "loose ends" have been tied up to her satisfaction, and there is no remaining "unfinished emotional business" that she needs to take care of before moving on with her life.

Achieving relationship closure is not always an easy task. In fact, I would venture to guess that, for a variety of reasons, far more relationships end without proper closure than end with it.

For example, some romantic relationships end without proper emotional closure simply because one of the partners refuses to engage in one last "loose-end-tying-up" conversation. Perhaps the idea of having such a soul-searching conversation is too daunting at the emotional level, and the person simply does not want to "go there," maybe for fear of opening old emotional wounds.

Just as we are always asking our politicians to hold themselves "accountable" for their decisions and actions, it is also a good idea to hold our partners and ourselves "accountable" for our own decisions and behavior in our relationships. This is one big reason that working to achieve healthy closure at the end of dating relationships (and friendships, too), is so important for the emotional health of everyone involved.

An effective closure conversation enables both partners to say goodbye and move forward.

In this helpful Dating Tips advice column published on OnlineDatingMagazine.com, the column author, who is simply referred to as "The Dating Tipster", offers the following useful anecdote to describe a great example of healthy relationship closure:

"I once dated a wonderful woman, and we had an absolutely great connection. However ... there were things within the relationship that prevented it from moving to the next level. The breakup was very hard on both of us.

"Nearly two years after the relationship had ended, I received a phone call from this person. She wanted to see me. I agreed. We met and had a good conversation, but that was it. She had just been proposed to and needed to see me one last time in order to bring closure to our past together. At the end of our meeting she gave me a strong hug that lasted for over a minute. That's all she needed to say her final goodbye and move on to a new chapter of her life.

"If you feel you need closure then go ahead and request a meeting in order to bring that closure you need and to say your final goodbye. When you're done, move on with your life. Yes, you'll still think of him because deep down there is still something there. That is normal. But the closure may help you move on."

What I particularly like about the above anecdote from OnlineDatingMagazine.com's "Dating Tipster", is that both parties were so open to the idea of meeting one final time to say their last goodbyes. In agreeing to have such a meeting, they were both acknowledging several important fundamental truths about human relationships, including the following:

The relationship that the two of them had shared had mattered a great deal to both of them. They had once been very much in love with each other, and while this was no longer the case, by agreeing to meet for one last time, they were each acknowledging the important places that they had once held in each other's lives.

This mutual acknowledgment of the intrinsic value of their shared history constitutes a deeply reverential, humane, compassionate and caring act. Agreeing to have a conversation about closure tells the other person that while the romance has cooled, you still respect them and care about them as a human being and wish them nothing but the best in the future.

Officially saying goodbye can feel downright liberating. In agreeing to formally say goodbye to that particular shared chapter of their lives, they can now feel free to start the next portion of their lives with a clean slate, free from any "chains to the past" that might otherwise hold them back from allowing their next romantic relationships to reach their full potential.

There is an inherent value in rituals of all kinds. We have rituals for weddings and graduations and funerals, and all kinds of other life milestones. Indeed, human beings have long enjoyed and benefited from the public acknowledgment of the most important moments in our lives. And I believe that this innate desire for ritual, or for the official marking of an important occasion, which many, if not most, human beings share, is one of the reasons that so many of us crave a sense of closure when our relationships come to an end.

How to Have A Healthy "Closure" Conversation:

A respectful, compassionate closure conversation can be sad but also liberating.

Here are four important components that should be present in any type of conversation about relationship closure:

First, it's actually good idea to state out loud that the two of you are about to have a "closure conversation," and that this is a sad and difficult task, but it is also necessary and useful.

When the two people involved actually acknowledge that this is a conversation specifically about closure it can help both individuals to set healthy parameters about what it is appropriate or inappropriate to discuss. Also, it allows both partners to think of the conversation as an official goodbye talk, which is intended to enable them both to move forward as soon as the conversation is over.

One or both partners may want to reminisce a bit about some specific good memories in the relationships, and it is usually a good idea for both parties to honor this desire, because it is a tacit way of communicating that: "We may not feel exactly as we once did about each other, but we sure have had some fun together in the past."

One or both partners may want to talk about what the other person has meant to them, and they may even want to state out loud exactly what each other's best qualities are.

During a closure conversation, there may be a temptation on the part of one or both partners to talk about the other person's negative qualities, or to discuss all of the things that went wrong with the relationship, but this is generally not a great idea because it can lead to a fight, which is not at all conducive to achieving genuine relationship closure.

Four Possible Obstacles to Having An Effective "Relationship Closure Conversation":

If one partner is still holding out the hope that the relationship could potentially resume.

If, for some reason, one partner refuses to meet with the other to have a closure conversation.

If one partner does not return phone calls or emails from the other to arrange a closure meeting.

If both partners do agree to meet, but one of them only wants to use the time to fight and rehash old issues, rather than using the opportunity to work toward achieving genuine relationship closure by tying up any emotional loose ends in a rational, compassionate manner.

3 over 5, 1 over 5, and 5 over 8

This is how I earn a living nowadays. Paid by the day and paid by the hour.
3 days over 5 days a week - means a contract for 5 months but actually only 3 months will be paid.
1 day charged to another contract - means need to swiftly shift my brain cells to the other side any given day a week.
5 hours over 8 working hours - every Saturday til my brains cannot take it anymore. Remuneration equivalent to 10 over 100 of the other contracts but keep me sane and braincells alive.
If it is true that time is gold, does it mean that I am richer these days because I have more time?

Claims?

Image Source: Philippine Daily Inquirer (30 June 2008)
Thee may sound morbid but thy are instructions (family, friends, others) in case a similar fate befalls thee:
1. Thou shall not agree to any resettlement or waiver. Let the court decide the just and fair compensation;
2. Thou shall get the best lawyers for thee (c/o Cynthia's siblings and Milette G.). The remuneration can be covered by item (1); and
3. Thou shall not endevour to retrieve thy body. Thee rather be entombed in the sea and than be retrieved whilst no person can agnize thy body.